The holiday season can be a challenging time for families that have recently undergone a divorce. Balancing each parent’s wants and preferences while keeping the children’s needs as the focus can be a tightwire act. However, the holidays do not need to be this complicated or adversarial.
Here are a few things you and your ex-spouse can consider so you and your children can have a wonderful holiday.
Plan and make an agreement
It would be best to start the discussion early to establish a holiday schedule that works for everyone. This also minimizes disagreements and can help make filing the custody agreement easier. The schedule and sharing agreements may change yearly, so you and your ex-spouse might need to revisit and modify terms annually.
Prioritize your children
You might feel tempted to insist on what you want or what “used to be the tradition.” However, it would be best to accept that divorce changes things, and some traditions may need changing. Focus on what is best for your children and give voice to their needs and preferences.
Communicate clearly but calmly
It helps no one if both of you are combative. Try to be clear and respectful when talking with your ex-spouse. Aim to keep your lines of communication open and have a civil dialogue. If necessary, be flexible and try to accommodate each other.
Document and file the agreement in court
Once you have finalized an agreement, you may document it in writing and file it in court. The court will then issue the final shared custody agreement so you and your family can enjoy the holidays peacefully.
